My 2 cents: Agree that there is a difference between friendly, helpful, playful and respectful exchange and questions or replies that are blatantly rude, thinly veiled rudeness, demeaning, disrespectful or just outright inappropriate and hostile in nature- intended to provoke, not solve or resolve. I see examples of this daily, and no, permison-less does not give you the right to be deliberately rude or combative. Does ‘permission-less’ give someone the right to hit a child, or use racial slurs or be physically or emotionally abusive to someone else? We should all hold ourselves to a higher standard based on human decency, including those at the highest levels of this organization. Everyone has a bad day, but some core contributors need to learn their behavior is not ok. He/she who yells the loudest and longest and tantrums until they get their way should not be part of our culture. There should be no tolerance for that level of immaturity, even if they feel they have been wronged in some way (real, fabricated or imagined). Time for everyone to put their big boy pants on and grow up. Permission-less is not a blank check to be a spoiled asshole. We need a zero asshole tolerance policy.
Two tests are specified for recognition of the asshole.
- After encountering the person, do people feel oppressed, humiliated or otherwise worse about themselves?
- Does the person target people who are less powerful than him/her?